Meet Kate Kearney, this month’s MMP mamma.
When not busy with her day job as a Digital Account Manager, Kate writes for her lifestyle and parenting blog “Rupert Approves” trains (often unsuccessfully) for triathlons, drinks wine, is new mom to son Carter James (born May 2015).
Kate believes that love is in the details, that no sarcasm should ever be faked and that making things found on Pinterest should be an allowable profession. Just the kind of stuff us mammas here at MMP believe, which is why Kate will be contributing to our blog from JHB. So look out for her posts on all things mamma and baba from the shimmering City of Gold.
Describe your first week of being a mom in 3 words.
Saturated in love.
Give us your top 3 must-haves for new moms?
- Toweling nappies – for everything from bath towels to burp cloths and in between!
- Baby monitor with breathing mat – this helped us to get Carter to sleep in his own room from day 1 and alleviated my fears about him suffocating. It’s a huge comfort having it on!
- Breast pump – because after 9 long months, a glass of wine after bath and bed time is very much needed!
Give us your top 3 could-have-done-withouts for new moms?
- Overly-complicated outfits. When your baby is so tiny the best thing for them and easiest for you) are simple cotton baby-grows and onesies. Items with zips and hoodies tend to be tricky to get on, and feel uncomfortable for the baby.
- Too many newborn nappies (depending on baby’s birth weight of course!). The pack that the hospital provides is generally sufficient
- Fancy cot linen. It’s gorgeous to look at, but when baba is so small it really isn’t necessary at all.
What’s the most inappropriate thing anyone said or did to you when you were pregnant?
I remember standing in a queue at Woolworths at about 16 weeks pregnant (I already had a sizeable bump by then) and I was eating a soft pretzel (I was hungry all the time!). A lady came up to me and commented “So early in your pregnancy and eating ALL the wrong things I see” then walked away. I was absolutely floored! I also had a lady come up to me at the office and tell me ‘I should no longer be working and should be at home waiting for the baby to come…’ I was only 8 months!
If we take a look in your nappy bag what would we find?
Apart from the usual items, I always carry spare breast pads with me (no-one warned me about how much my boobs would leak!) as well as a bottle of water and snacks like breakfast bars and nuts (no more soft pretzels…I’ve learned my lesson!)
What product should every mom have in their nappy bag?
Hand sanitizer and hand cream – so few places cater for moms that you often find yourself feeding in a change-room of a clothing store or in the back of your car. It’s so handy to have something to freshen up with afterwards.
Best piece of mom advice you’ve received, and from whom?
From my own mom (and it’s the only advise she has actually given me): When you go in to your baby’s room at night to feed or change, never make eye contact or chat to them – this teaches them the difference between day ‘play’ time and night ‘sleep’ time. I must be honest, it was so hard at first, but I stuck to it and it’s made a world of difference.
What do you wish you had been told before having your little one/s?
People love to give advice and info, so I was pretty up to speed on the baby side of things, but what I do wish was that someone had told me how the whole hospital, medical aid and UIF process worked. I found it all very overwhelming and confusing!
What has becoming a mom taught you about yourself?
That I need to stop caring what other people think – I still find myself apologizing for my bulky pram in restaurants, or when my baby cries. It’s a big lesson learning to put yourself and your new baby first.
What’s the most important thing you’d like to teach your child?
The basics; Please and thank-you’s, respect and empathy for others, honesty and integrity (and how to parallel park – something I still battle with!)
What do you think your little one’s going to be when he/she/they are big?
Hopefully something that lets me retire early! (With his long gorgeous fingers I’m hoping a surgeon).
What part of your upbringing will you carry forward in raising your own child?
Family first, play outdoors and be nice to everyone you meet.